One of my least favorite questions to hear: "why don't more guys ask girls out?" What if the answer isn't because we're antisocial? What if it's not because we're afraid of commitment? What if it's not because "all guys are stupid and shallow"?
It's interesting that some of the same people who whine about how shallow people are reward that same shallowness. They would never say it, but what you really believe is shown in what you do, not what you say. There's nothing wrong with talking about loving your boyfriend, but...
When the only time you talk about (especially on social media) loving your boyfriend is when he buys you something or talking about how hot he is, it's frustrating to people like me. When it seems so many relationships nowadays are almost entirely commercialized and/or sexualized, I'm not as likely to go asking girls out because I am neither rich nor hot.
Maybe I have too much of an idealist view of life. Maybe I'm guilty of the same things I get frustrated with other people for. Guys shouldn't get a free pass either. I'm merely writing from the only perspective I was given.
If people give in to the constant pressure to date, date, date!, they are less likely to find someone they genuinely like. While love is a choice, liking comes naturally. Don't forget to fall in like with the person you are in love with.
Besides, I'm too busy with school right now to give proper time to a relationship. That's the most valuable commodity in relationships: time, not money or hotness. To the people who keep rewarding shallowness: "ain't nobody got time fo' dat!"
And maybe one day, I'll even find someone who agrees.
-RST
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